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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Been Talked Out of a Breakup?

Mon, 01/28/2008 - 4:00pm by DearSugar
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Have you ever let your boyfriend talk you out of breaking up with him just in the nick of time? If so, you're not alone. According to February's issue of Glamour, 40 percent of the women surveyed have been talked out of it mid-split, usually because he said "I love you" or I'll change." Although those are nice words to hear, would that be enough for you to have a sudden change of heart? Ladies, what I want to know is, have you ever let someone talk you out of a breakup?

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  • emalove's picture
    emalove
    1

    Nope.

    When I decide to end a relationship, I do it and don't look back.

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • erratic-assassin's picture
    erratic-assassin
    2

    yup, this was the reason why I stayed in the horrible 4yr long relationship. if your gut tells you to leave, YOU LEAVE!

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • bingkaycoy's picture
    bingkaycoy
    3

    Yes I did (before I met my husband). And that was exactly the reason why I stayed in a very horrible insecure relationship for 2 years coz I thought "my love" and "his promise" would change him.

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • kaenai's picture
    kaenai
    5

    it's happened before, mainly because i really didn't want to. if i really wanted to leave, then i would have. Sad

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Lovely_1's picture
    Lovely_1
    6

    Yes.
    My ex did it a lot.
    But after 2 years we both figured it wasn't working out and mutally split.

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • julieulie's picture
    julieulie
    7

    I've never been talked out of a breakup (when I say it's over, it's over!) but I've talked my fiance out of it, haha. He's very irrational when he's upset/angry and says stupid things, and I refused to let him do things he would regret in the morning, because once I walk out that door, I am NOT coming back.

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    8

    but it was secretly cuz i wanted to stay. but when i put my foot down i put my foot down, and that was that.

    49 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Meike's picture
    Meike
    9

    Yes, one of the worst decisions of my life. If it was over a first time, it should stayed over. It obviously wasn't going to work a second time. He wasn't magically going to change into a better person.

    I will never make that mistake twice.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • stefsprl's picture
    stefsprl
    10

    Nope...whenever I had made the decision to end things (which usually took a lot because I'm pretty non-confrontational), I was done.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • bailaoragaditana's picture
    bailaoragaditana
    12

    No way - or at least not yet. If I end it, I generally have good reasons, and there's no going back... although I sort of wish I had been talked out of my first breakup with a bit more success... I regret it, now...

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • rickimc's picture
    rickimc
    14

    I talked HIM out of a break up over almost two years ago. Things have been great since then (I think he was getting cold feet because his best friend was getting married).

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Poster of a Girl's picture
    Poster of a Girl
    15

    yes, but in my defence it wasn't a premeditated break up - it was one of those angry spur of the moment things. But when I actually started thinking about it seriously and did it, I don't think anything could have talked me out of it. But then again, by then he didn't try, so who knows =/

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • violinladyfreak's picture
    violinladyfreak
    17

    I`ve felt that my relationshin wasn`t going in the right direction before and every time I tried breaking it off he always jumped in and save it all. His first "I'll change" didn't work, second didn't quite become true either, but I guess guys need more than just one push sometimes, especially when they're young. Now "I'll change" actually works and we're engaged!

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • robins's picture
    robins
    19

    NO, WHEN I SAY IT'S OVER IT'S OVER!! When i told my friends i was going to breakup with my first boyfriend they tried to convince me to stay because he was ''cute''!! i broke up with him because he was a a*hole and a liar!!!

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • jimmalou1978's picture
    jimmalou1978
    20

    Yes, and it was a 5 year marriage, so I was more apt to want to stay. However, once I finally made my mind up that I WAS leaving, he wasn't able to change my mind with an "I'll change." I knew better!

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • JustSomeChick's picture
    JustSomeChick
    21

    I have, but it was a seriously bad relationship, abusive and manipulative and I admit I was totally controlled by him. It took some time, but I finally realized I was better than that, and I had to get out and did. He certainly guilted me into staying for a lot longer than I ever should have though.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Lambsauce's picture
    Lambsauce
    22

    Yep... guilty. I say some things I don't mean when I get in horrible moods, a fact he's well aware of.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • mn48225's picture
    mn48225
    23

    I have and like everyone else it was a horrible relationship that I ended up going back to. The man was manipulative and was abusive. Blah.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • 1QTPIE's picture
    1QTPIE
    25

    Yup... For almost 4 years and then I find out he has an almost 1 year old son... I hit ghost on him with the quickness...

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • gigill's picture
    gigill
    26

    Sorta yes once as my bf put so much effort into our anniversary night that I didn't have the guts to break up with him then.

    Another time another boyfriend pulled the "I love you card" when I asked for a break. I knew when I felt like that still wasn't good enough that we were going to break up. And we did.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • nancita's picture
    nancita
    27

    I have been talked out of a breakup, and I ended up staying in the relationship for months longer than I should have when I knew I wanted out. I think in general letting yourself be talked out of it is a bad idea.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • juliex0x0's picture
    juliex0x0
    28

    I was talked out of it three times in one relationship. Think we both would have been better off if it had ended the first time I tried. Oh well, you live and you learn.

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • bluebellknoll's picture
    bluebellknoll
    29

    Unfortunately, yes. When I look back at it now it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Thank goodness I'm not in that situation anymore!!!

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • diazy's picture
    diazy
    30

    yes and so glad i didn't i was young and thought he was holding me back Smiling we dated for 6 years before that and now we have been together for 13 years

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Agymgirl55's picture
    Agymgirl55
    31

    Yes, he talked me out of it, made the changes that I had wanted and now we're engaged! We definetely talk things out better now

    49 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Silverlining10's picture
    Silverlining10
    33

    I tend to get irrational when I'm upset, and I like to be left alone. However, if I feel any hint of annoyance at my boyfriend during this time, I am quick to dump him. Thankfully, he understands how I work, and he's supportive, but at the same time, forces me to re-examine my decision without being pushy. Of course, thirty minutes later, I realize I was foolish.

    49 weeks 16 hours ago Report Comment
  • Advah's picture
    Advah
    34

    Nope, I really didn't see any reasons for NOT breaking up.

    I did talk someone out of a break up though, but that was only to (mutually) break up a month later. Long story.. :/ But I still find it really sweet that he liked me enough to give it another try. Or maybe he was just too daft to actually say there was a problem before. Puzzled He's a nice guy, but he's a weirdo.

    48 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment

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